When you domesticate a wild animal, you cannot just put it in a cage and expect it to stay content. No matter how much food you give it, it will try to escape and run away. And every time, it will make a greater effort not to be caught again.
To domesticate an animal, you must gain its trust first. Then, the domestication process becomes a continual dialectic. In order for it to be successful, the animal must feel satisfied more by continuing to participate in the dialectic than to run away. Over time, the animal will become a companion, and that trust becomes a bond.
But if you break the trust, you break the bond. Sometimes it can be mended, if it’s addressed quickly and prioritized accordingly. But the relationship is forever changed, and if there is no amicable solution, schism occurs.
The idea of winners and losers is a fallacy of modern society: nobody wins in a schism — bonds are broken, enemies can be made, and conflict arises. Conflict sets other patterns in motion as the schismed parties go their separate ways and then, before the original conflict can be resolved, the fractalized conflicts and loops (“subs”) that spiral out from the schism need all to be resolved, first.
If the schismed parties are lucky, and they are able to reconnect after resolving their respective “subs,” they may have an opportunity to resolve the conflict, again. More likely than not, they will find it again in another party, and will continue to be tested by, over and over, until they are able to reach an amicable solution rather than a schism.